Our Story
We met in 2017 while going to Abuja for a convention hosted by the Christian Alumni Association of our Institution then.
I was in my finals at that time while she was doing her compulsory one-year industrial training course.
On that faithful event of our meeting, we happened to board the same bus with other students and she was sitting at my back.
It was a long journey and everyone got to relate with each other right on the big bus. Selfies were taken. Greetings were made and that was how we got talking.
She collected my phone and began to browse through my gallery and then saw different pictures of myself and some sisters which affected her first impression of me.
During the five-day convention, we interacted a few times and even snapped pictures together but until date, we can't remember how we exchanged contact but I suspect she was the one who collected my number.
At the time of the meeting, we weren't ready for a relationship so that wasn't our basis for communication or friendship. We stayed as friends and along the line, would jokingly call each other's family members inlaws. There wasn't any intention of a relationship.
During the four years of our 'normal' friendship, I have been involved in two different relationships 😷 while she was just there as a friend and the most interesting part is that we didn't see physically for up to four times in the space of those years even though we were in the same School for a year before I graduated.
Though we didn't see much, our communication was consistent and the friendship was genuine.
At those times, whenever the topic of relationship was raised, she was not ready for such commitment until some time in 2020 which I sensed she was ready but I still didn't shoot my shot because I wasn't fully convinced then.
And when I got the final conviction around late 2020, I 'cast and bind' the thoughts. Even before the conviction to be with her, I knew there was something about her but I didn't want anything more than the beautiful friendship we shared, and then, when I became ready for it, somehow, I didn't want it to be her and that was not because she wasn't beautiful and a good friend.
I felt she was too strong-willed and serious and some other things about her that I wasn't comfortable with. But I have come to realize that God never truly gives us the finished products as spouses but the 'raw material' so that through His help, we can help them to become better versions of themselves. This was my case.
After much deliberations, counsel, and prayers, I waited until there was a green light from her end and I made my shot in 2021. But it took this woman of God about 5 months to give me a reply which was in the positive.
We are one year plus in this new journey and sincerely, this is one of the best decisions I have taken in my life. It feels like I have never loved before. The peace here is nothing compared to another and soon, we would be walking down the aisle, saying YES to the newer assignment God has for us.
Like I will always tell her, "I am not getting married to you because I am of age or because a man must marry but because I met YOU. You are the reason."
Indeed, she is the reason and she confirms the revelation God gave me of how He would give me an inheritance as a wife.
So feel free to call our story, 'the trip to Abuja that led to forever'.