Destination Wedding To-Do List (3 Months Before)

Tick tock. Time will slip through your busy fingers as you tie up loose ends in preparation for your upcoming trip of a lifetime. Allow this time to pass in an excited, instead of stressful, manner. Check off one to-do at a time and take breaks in between to relax with your fiancé and share in your mutual enthusiasm for the big event, looming on the horizon.

Write Your Vows

Now is the time to peer into your heart and find the words to describe why you’re choosing to make The Commitment with your fiancé. Because this can be such an overwhelming task, start with a list of the qualities you love in your fiancé, unique aspects of your love story, and how you feel about the idea of spending the rest of your life with them. Then, let your vows organically evolve from this heart-centered list.

Schedule a Call With Your Wedding Planner

Destination weddings often lean heavily on the wedding planner, as they’re the one that will organize almost every aspect of the wedding – some even help with travel arrangements for your guests. So, it’s imperative that you maintain good communication with them to ensure they have the needed guidance and information to help you craft your ideal wedding. Plan a phone call with them where you go over details for flowers, other decorations, food, drinks, seating plans, venues, entertainment, and more for every wedding event you will be having. Be prepared with a list of topics, questions, and requests.

Book a Makeup Artist and Hair Stylist

During your phone call with the wedding planner ask them for recommendations for local makeup and hair stylists. Ideally, they’ll offer a variety of options. These options will have a website or can send you example photos of their work so you can select the beauty team that best suits your style preferences.

Hire a DJ and Organize Your Music Preferences

Yet another question for your wedding planner: DJ recommendations. Whether you hire a DJ or create your own playlists, it’s important to spend time thinking about the songs that will create the vibes you want for the rehearsal dinner, pre-ceremony cocktails, processional, recessional, and reception. Give the DJ as much guidance as possible to ensure their surprise song selections don’t make you cringe.

Double Check Travel Plans for All Confirmed Guests

No matter how “on it” you believe your guests are with their travel arrangements, there will be some that need extra nudging to get it done. Draft an email to all your confirmed guests asking them to send you their arrival and departure dates, flight information, accommodations confirmation, and if needed, car rental reservations. Even though you don’t necessarily need all this information, the request will be a catalyst for them to make sure all their traveling ducks are in a row.

Ensure the Bridal Party Has Their Attire

Just like guests forget about pinning down their travel needs, your bridal party might forget about finding the clothes they’re supposed to wear down the aisle. Luckily, three months is plenty of time to find that perfect baby blue chiffon dress or pair of khaki linen pants, so send all members of the bridal party a friendly reminder and request that they send you a picture when they purchase the needed ensemble.

Purchase Your Accessories

While your dress is surely fab enough to stand on its own, it’s always fun to find the perfect accessories like jewelry, shoes, hair pieces, garter belt, lingerie, and any other adornment you believe will enhance The Day. Make sure you end up with the pieces you love by giving yourself time to shop around, or even have a few items custom made. There’s no better time to be picky about the details.

Buy the Extras

Mentally walk yourself through every step of your rehearsal, rehearsal dinner, ceremony, reception, and any other wedding events you may be having and figure out what extra items you envision being present. For example, what kind of guestbook would you like? Are there special decorations (not offered by your venue) that you would like featured? Make a list of any extras you would like and begin the process of hunting them down.

Collect Welcome Bag Items

While it’s completely optional to provide guests with a bag full of goodies upon arrival at your wedding destination, it can be a nice way to say thank you for their travel efforts. The welcome bag could include items unique to the destination, feature wedding-inspired treats, or just have helpful articles like the wedding events itinerary, sunscreen, snacks, a bottle of water, or anything else you think could enhance their stay.

Buy a Wedding Gift for Your Fiancé

Put your romantic thinking cap on and brainstorm unique gift options that will tell fiancé that you know them well, you love them unconditionally, and you’re so ready to spend the rest of your life with them. A few examples I’ve seen are an engraved antique compass for a fiancé who is a lover of sailboats, a handmade leather journal with a letter inside for a fiancé who is a writer, and a custom-made surfboard for a finance who lives for a good wave. Get creative and remember the age-old adage – it’s the thought that counts.

Coming up next, Destination Wedding To-Do List (2 Weeks Before)

Bailey Gaddis is the author of Feng Shui Mommy: Creating Balance and Harmony for Blissful Pregnancy, Childbirth, and Motherhood, a childbirth preparation educator, birth doula, and hypnotherapist who works with mothers-to-be, new mothers, and their support teams. She is also a regular contributor to media outlets including Disney’s Babble, Working Mother, Pregnancy & Newborn, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, and Woman’s Day. In addition to her childbirth-prep work, she volunteers for families in need of postpartum support. She lives in Ojai, California.

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