The first time I met her was in 2010 through my friend's girlfriend. She was part of a group of 3 friends we referred to as the 3 musketeers - as you hardly saw one without the others - they are still very close to this date. After a while, I stopped seeing her but I did not ask, we were friends on Facebook and I tried to keep up communication but was unsuccessful. As I got to find out when we started talking, she had left the country by 2011 and did not even remember seeing me (inserts crying face).

Fast forward to November 2018 when I found her under a Twitter thread and slid into her DM - as a good sharp guy - but at this point, it was just friendship. For me, this was because in July 2017, after my last relationship ended, I decided to go on what I called a "relationship fast" to study and understand myself and God's plan for marriage for 1 year, which ended up becoming 3 years.

When I was done with my fast and convinced and ready to take it a notch higher, I reached out to one of the three musketeers who I was in contact with for hints on how to get her to notice me, and she (God bless her kind heart) gave me a really good hint - so I surprised her on valentines day 2020, and I got a call from her with so much excitement, I noticed that after that day our conversations lost the formal tone and become a tad bit friendlier. But that was it, nothing formal, just good friends at this point and even though we were in the same Lagos, we got to see just about 2 or 3 times then I had to leave Lagos for Yola in June 2020 while she left the country in December 2020.

I officially asked her out by January 2021 but a few months in and we began to struggle with distance and tight schedules so when she came around in July 2021, we realised that if we do not make up our minds, we risk drifting apart as I was preparing to move to either Germany or Canada she was preparing to settle in the UK, ultimately I had to shift my focus to the UK as well.

So when she came back to Nigeria, I went to see her parents and took her to see mine and on December 28th 2021, we did our proper introduction. We had arranged for our wedding to be in October 2022 but had to postpone it due to unavoidable circumstances.

Ours is a story of patience, consistency and love. It started with true, pure friendship and look where we are today.
According to my husband, we met in 2010 during my one year program in Benue state University, I truly don’t remember this (sorry babe), but i do remember hearing about him from my friend who was dating his friend at that time.
Fast forward to a few years later, when I kept getting messages from this lovely young man, I didn’t respond because I didn’t remember him, unknown to me God had his own plans.

We finally started talking and became friends sometime in 2018. I told him all I could offer was friendship and nothing more as I was in a long term relationship at the time. We continued being friends even though we lost contact so many times for long periods but because our friendship was real, we always picked up like we never lost touch.
I just remembered him as my gentle, kind friend that time.

Sometime in 2020, after my long term relationship had ended, I was in the theatre on Valentine’s day, when one delivery guy was won’t stop calling my phone.I wasn’t even expecting anything on that valentine’s day because I was a single pringle at the time😂
I sha collected the gift, opened it and found some really lovely perfumes and chocolates. There was no name attached to the gift so I didn’t even know it was from him. I got a call almost immediately from my friend, telling me how he called to ask her about my favourite things. Then I remembered My friend had asked for my address the previous week under the pretence of coming to visit me but didn’t come and then it all made sense because I never gave him my address.
over the next couple of weeks, I would get some random gifts of my favourite things from him.

I was really touched by this gesture as he went through all that trouble just to make me smile on Valentine’s day. So I relaxed a little and became more friendly. This made me get to know him better as we talked a little more often than before and I got to realise what a brilliant mind he has.

I moved to the UK and we got serious a little after that. He was making plans to relocate to Either Germany or Canada, so I told him that if he moved there, it would change the course of our story because my last relationship was long distance and I wasn’t really keen to do that again. So he changed his mind and decided to move to the UK too and that was when i knew for sure how serious he was.

December 2021, our parents were clamouring to meet each other and so we did our introduction. We had wedding plans underway in 2022 until the rude shock of my Dad’s demise made us move our wedding to 2023 and here we are.

Between when we met and today, the day we’re getting married, I believe every single thing that happened in between, good or bad, led us to this very moment which the Lord ordained himself.

It truly is a beautiful story, but I cannot tell it all here as there would be too much to write.