Our Story
We met on Twitter.
I had a creative project I was working on, and needed a graphic designer to bring some of my ideas to life. I had been following Ore on Twitter for some months and noticed he designed and wrote poetry. I was impressed by his varied abilities and reached out to him for his design services. Ore was gracious enough to create value for me without a charge and his kindness further impressed me. We stopped talking after the job and only reconnected a year down the line because of a conversation about poetry and faith. He seemed like a really interesting person and my curiosity got the best of me. We spoke for some weeks on Twitter and then I asked for his number so we could get to know each other better.
We became friends really quickly, talking for days on end about nothing and everything. I found his wit, creativity, simplicity and genuineness very alluring. He found my self-awareness, interest in his person, and peace attractive. Our friendship was just pure and whole. We were both in our final years at University, I lived in the U.K and Ore was in Nigeria. Everything was going well till Ore started catching feelings and this made me want to catch flights out of the whole thing because that was not the plan. There I was, planning how to graduate, start my career and become successful at life and then this boy tells me he wants to marry me (yeah, Ore was/is never subtle about his feelings). Ore quickly became Home - my safest space and where I always want to be.
The dynamics of our relationship had changed but it did not feel weird. Even when I wanted to put some distance between us, all of life and its happenings seemed to bring us even closer and our bond was strengthened with each event. Everywhere I turned, I was barraged with clear confirmations that Ore could be my husband if I chose him. Truth is, at this point, I had began to catch feelings too (hard guy in the mud!) Nonetheless, I had to be logical about all of it. I had questions about the future, I had doubts about love and relationships, I had fears that warped my perspective about marriage, I wanted to know every detail of how things would play out. In all of this, Ore was very patient with me and so was God. God carefully taught me about love and marriage as His creation and that's when I obtained the right template, perspective and desire for it.
Ore's love for me has always mirrored God's and the day I remembered that this was the answer to the specific prayer I had been praying since I was 14, I found the peace, assurance and clarity required to jump. So I fell in love with the amazing gift God brought my way and every day since that initial conversation on the 8th of January 2017, has found me falling deeper still. I cherish our journey and I adore my Babe.
Do y'all have room for more? Yes? Okay, I will let O.S tell the rest of the story.
After many days and nights of our long distance friendship and relationship, many days and nights of bonding, only texting and barely calling, Ore had moved back to Nigeria and I was going to get my long-awaited opportunity to meet her in person.
It was the D-day. I was going to see the Love of my life (She thought I was overly forward, but I had way too much peace to miss it). It was Calledout Music’s first-ever worship experience in Lagos, it was located in a small music studio in Lagos Island in 2017. While O.M was still in Birmingham, we had made plans to both attend this concert but her arrival seemed uncertain at that time. Somehow, our plans were perfected and she arrived Lagos a few days before. I was excited by the mere fact of breathing the same air with her, seeing the same sun she saw. It was pure joy to know she was only a few kilometers away.
What is life without a twist? I added some spice. I called her to tell her I was not able to get my ticket for the concert as it was sold out, thereby giving her the impression that I would not make it to the concert. It was the truth, I did not get my ticket because I did not need to. CalledOut Music made an exception for me and that is how I did not miss my kairos moment. I got there before her and sat in the waiting area. She came in, saw me and turned the opposite direction because she was shocked. She doesn't like surprises (still doesn't) but that is my expertise. She finally walked up to me and told me she knew this was going to happen because the Holy Spirit snitched on me. I stan a discerning child of God.
Physically meeting her was cute, but it was nothing compared to discovering/knowing her heart and mind over the past couple of months. It was like we knew each other for very long. I spent most of the event staring at her, (sorry Calledout) and she was so shy. She still complains about my staring at her gorgeousness. If you see her outside, please tell her that I cannot help it. In fact, I don't want to be helped.
My journey with O.M over the years has been nothing short of a dream come true. We have been through various phases of life together. From being students to chasing our dreams, starting a business, going to law school, completing projects on projects - growing through it all. O.M is my support system, she has seen me through some of the toughest periods of my life and held my hands. We have protected each other’s peace from the craziness of adulthood and the busyness of Lagos. When you have the best moments of your life with someone, it is hard to imagine the future without them in it. More than what we feel, it is what we decided when we met - to be intentional about each other and put in the honest work it takes.
O.M is home for me, and it gives me so much joy that we get the chance to make a physical home of what we have been experiencing for the past 4 years. It is a dream come true, I am marrying the Love of My Life!